Okay
So I'm probably a little depressed. I hate using that word because I'm not depressed, depressed, but I am working like crazy and doing little else. I won't lie - I'm frustrated that I try to schedule group outings and even after getting most folks' buy-in on a date - ONE person has accepted the evite. Really? What's sad is that if I don't arrange these things, no one will. Sorry friends, but a majority of you aren't good at planning things. So I think I'm giving up on all of you. The people who want to hang out with me will have to call me, but it's frustrating to try to plan around my insanely busy work schedule so that I can see people I care about, but there's little (or no) effort back. I love you guys, but I give up. Wanna be friends? It's your turn.
I'm off to boot up the laptop on my deck...
I'm off to boot up the laptop on my deck...
posted by Charissa at 2:45 PM
10 Comments:
I'm sorry. I was in, but I can't afford it this week. Have to go to Texas unexpectedly next week and it's costing me $500. :(
I love planners. I must be the Ohio version of you! It is a bummer when people can't just say "yes, I will be there." or ,"Nope, sorry" You get those "I may be there" people and it really throws everything off for the plans. People who don't appreciate us planners just can't get it. And I don't think they are capable of understanding what really goes into planning gatherings. It can cause major stress! :)
*ahem* I asked you to drinks this week and haven't heard back... just sayin...
One of the problems might be that almost no one in the universe can imagine themselves to be as busy as you always seem to be... when I go to lunch with a group of people, and someone asks where we're going, I always say I don't care, because I know that I have the broadest tastes in food, and I also know that any suggestion I make will be rejected because there's always someone that has an idea of what they DON'T want.
It's possible that other less-planny people have tried to work around your schedule enough times that they've just given up asking; this recently happened to me with a friend of mine who I used to meet at Brewer's every other night. I was busy every time he called for long enough that he just stopped calling. I was free pretty much every night he DIDN'T call.
My point is, it happens, and it's not necessarily deliberate. Don't let it get to you.
I have a friend that you just cannot count on to make plans with to save your life, so I feel your pain! I am a planner myself, but this particular friend will show up super late, or cancel all together at the last minute...sometimes it makes you wonder...
I hope you start to feel better soon. Wish I could come see ya!
Hugs,
Annie
I have a friend that you just cannot count on to make plans with to save your life, so I feel your pain! I am a planner myself, but this particular friend will show up super late, or cancel all together at the last minute...sometimes it makes you wonder...
I hope you start to feel better soon. Wish I could come see ya!
Hugs,
Annie
dlwLook, we obviously don't know each other, and let me preface this by saying I enjoy reading your blog, but--it sounds like you're throwing a pity party for yourself. I don't know jwer, but it sounds like he made some good points. If you're as busy as you seem to be, try and take a step back and look at if you're really, truly busy because you have an evil boss that makes you work 12 hour days ALL THE TIME, or if you're busy because you CHOOSE TO MAKE IT that way.
On jwer's point, I actually (sadly) ended a very long friendship with someone because she made herself "so busy" and she didn't really consider other's schedules. She would just get upset if everyone couldn't fit into hers. And maybe I'm wrong, but it sounds like you're thinking that just because someone's schedule doesn't mesh with yours, that you take it to mean they don't care. I'm willing to bet your friends care very much.
It might also be that maybe you plan things too specifically. Maybe your friends like to be open as to what will happen when you get together, and not worry about having to be at one place at a certain time, etc.
And to be quite honest, if I read on a friend's blog that she was "giving up on all of" her friends, I would take that like a slap in the face. And if a good friend said that to me, I would most likely just let her distance herself from me...because that's what you're doing to your friends with this post. YOU'RE giving up on your friends. And that makes it sound like YOU'RE the one that doesn't care.
Well, I guess you're right, Maggie. You don't know me. Oh the joys of internet blogging...
I was just trying to show things from another point of view; that I'm sure your friends DO care. I'm sorry you felt the need to respond in that way instead of thinking about what I said. I was just agreeing with your friend jwer.
Well, see, that was your first mistake...
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